As parents, we often find ourselves consumed by the demands of work, household chores, and the ever-growing list of things to do. Sometimes, we forget that life should also be about having fun and sharing moments of laughter with our children. It took a simple, casual conversation with my son, Raven, to remind me of this important lesson.
One Saturday morning, as we strolled to his Kumon class, I casually asked, “Did you remember to bring a notebook and pencil?” Raven replied, “Yes… but the point of my pencil broke. I forgot to sharpen it.” I couldn’t resist the opportunity for a little wordplay and quipped, “Then, what’s the use of bringing your pencil? It’s pointless…” I let out a chuckle, proud of my mom joke.
Raven, caught off guard by my unexpected sense of humor, chuckled too and remarked, “It’s the first time you told a joke! I’ve never heard you tell any before.” We both laughed, but his comment left me pondering.
His innocent observation hit home. I realized that over the years of parenting, I had forgotten how to have fun. I had become so focused on being the responsible, dependable mom that I had left behind a part of myself that used to delight in silliness. I had unintentionally neglected the playful part of me. It made me question when I had become so serious. Motherhood brings with it a plethora of responsibilities, and it’s easy to get lost in the whirlwind of diaper changes, school meetings, and bedtime routines. I often find myself frustrated and impatient with the tiniest mistake. My children even jokingly gave me the title “Savage Mama”, a reminder of my tendency to be the stern parent. But Raven’s casual comment reminded me that being a good mom doesn’t mean sacrificing joy and laughter.
I realized that finding the lost art of having fun wasn’t just about telling jokes; it was about being present in the moment, letting go of the seriousness that can sometimes weigh us down, and simply enjoying moments of light-heartedness. I made a conscious effort to learn and engage in the computer games they play. During the weekends, we set aside time to watch anime together and waste some minutes laughing at funny Instagram reels before bedtime. It became our special bonding time, a way for us to connect beyond the confines of daily routines.
So, to all the moms out there, don’t forget to have fun. Let your inner child come out to play, tell those cheesy jokes, and relish the laughter and eye rolls that come with them. Motherhood is a serious business, but it’s also a grand adventure filled with moments of joy. Embrace the fun, and you’ll find that it not only brings you closer to your children but also makes the journey all the more worthwhile.
A bonus benefit is fewer wrinkles! (˵ •̀ ᴗ – ˵ ) ✧